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I’ve had so many people ask me what Neuro Linguistic Programming is and I’ve been promising to tell you pretty much since I started this blog. There is so much that NLP can do and help you with, so if you want a full explanation I suggest you Google it. However, I’m just listing how I use NLP to help myself and my clients.
NLP is basically a way of reprogramming the mind by changing or removing:
- Unhelpful learned behaviours that are no longer useful and replacing them with more effective ones
- Unhelpful ‘movies’ or memories that we replay over and over and either replacing them with more constructive ones or changing their intensity
Dealing with Learned Behaviours
What most of us don’t realise is that we create the way we react to situations when we are children. Something new happens to us and we react in a certain way and the subconscious then stores that reaction for use when that situation arises again in the future.
The problem with this is that we learn much of these reactions as children and they never change (learned behaviours) therefore, as an adult we can react to something in the same way we did when we were 6, which is no longer appropriate as an adult. As these reactions tend to be learnt subconsciously years previously, we can’t always understand why we react the way we do, or how to actually change our reactions. That’s were an NLP practitioner comes in.
All behaviours are learned, therefore, if we’ve learned them once, we can re-learn a new, more effective behaviour to replace it. What I will do is help clients pin point which behaviours or reactions to situations are no longer working for them and help them replace them with more effective ones. Once you’ve used the new reaction a couple of times, that then becomes your ‘normal’ reaction and the old one disappears.
One of my favourite sayings (and I must use it at least once a day, every day, especially with new clients) is:
“Always do what you’ve always done; always get what you’ve always got”
In other words unless you change what you’re doing/thinking/saying you will always get the same result. It never ceases to amaze me how people continue to do the same thing and are surprised that their life never changes and they find it impossible to solve their problems. Another quote I love which says the same thing in a different way:
“Insanity: Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results” Albert Einstein
Dealing with Negative Memories
Most of use run ‘movies’ in our minds of past events. However, for some of us, those movies can be really destructive eg consistently re-running something negative that happened to us can have a long term negative effect on us. When I speak to clients who are suffering from mild to severe bouts of negativity or even mild depression, when i dig a big deeper I will undoubtedly find that they are re-running/reliving events that may have happened to them years before.
The problem with this is that the mind cannot tell the difference between something real and something that we vividly imagine and that’s not something I’ve made up or read in a book, it’s been tested in experiment after experiment. Therefore, by helping the person change the intensity of that picture/movie or removing it all together and replacing it with something more positive, the pain and negativity can often be totally removed thereby giving a much better standard to living to the client.
What can NLP be used for?
- Removing phobias - a phobia is just a learned behaviour to an event or object which can be just as easily unlearnt
- Removing old negative or destructive ways of thinking and replacing them with more positive and effective ones
- Removing old patterns of behaviour and replacing them with more positive and effective ones
- Increasing confidence - removing any unhelpful images and thoughts and replacing them with positive and effective ones
How do you change these things using NLP
We do this through a range of techniques (depending on the person and the issue) including hypnotherapy, language patterns, questioning and observation. I don’t tend to use hypnotherapy very often as I don’t find that I need to. It’s enough for me to use in-depth questioning techniques and visualisation in order help the person identify exactly what the problem is and then to use specific language patterns and further visualisation to help them change things.
Famous NLP Practitioners
If you wonder if you know anyone who uses/practices NLP but haven’t actually recognised it, yes you do ... Paul McKenna is a Master NLP Trainer and Practitioner. All of his recent books and ‘self help’ TV programmes that he’s done over the years are all based on NLP principles. In fact, he studied for years with the co-founder of NLP Richard Bandler and still works very closely with him now. I’ve done a few workshops with him and read all his books and I can’t recommend them highly enough. His stuff works.
Another person I know who uses NLP (although he doesn’t like to admit it) is Derren Brown. When I watch him I can often spot a mile off how he does his tricks, because he uses so much of the NLP language patterns. Funny though, he does make a habit of knocking NLP, although I know at least half a dozen people who’ve been on NLP training courses and Derren’s been there too!
Summary
That’s a really quick overview of NLP. Like I said at the beginning, there’s so much more to it than I’ve put here, but it gives you a good idea of what it can be used for and what I use it for. If you would like information how I can help you make tangible changes in your life, please do not hesitate to contact me or go to my website for more information:
Email: jo@jobanks.net
Website: jobanks.net
Email: jo@jobanks.net
Website: jobanks.net
