Sadly,
worry seems to be an ever increasing emotion that I’m seeing more and
more. Clients often say, “I can’t sleep,
I’m such a worrier ...” “I worry about everything and I just can’t seem to stop”. As a result, I decided to look into it a bit
deeper to see what it is that non-worriers do that worriers don’t. Here are a few of the observations that I’ve
made:
1. They Focus on the present
The
future hasn’t happened yet and as our brains cannot tell the difference between
something that’s real and something that’s vividly imagined, we can relive our
worst fears over and over again without them actually ever happening! Focussing on the present and actions you can
take rather than worst case scenarios will help you gain control over the
actual situation rather than your vividly imagined one.
2. They are more willing to take
chances
What
would you be, do or have if you didn’t worry?
People who don’t worry are free to take more chances because they don’t feel
anxious about the outcome. They have
enough faith in their own abilities to know that whatever happens, things will
always work out as they are supposed to.
3. They have a sense of perspective
Because
they aren’t projecting into the future, they are firmly in the now and are
therefore able to see a situation for what it is, not what they imagine it to
be. Taking this stance is empowering and
enables them to make better decisions based on what’s actually happening rather
than what they imagine will happen ... often two very different things.
4. They get to the root of the worry
They
don’t brew over things, they look at problems in a calm and level headed
way. They find the cause and deal with
it in the most effective way possible as quickly as possible, thereby
potentially heading off problems before they occur or at the very least,
minimising the impact.
5. They have confidence that they can
handle anything that comes their way
They
learn by their mistakes, look at what they’ve been through in their past and
know that they can handle anything. It’s
not that non worriers have fewer problems; they just have a better strategy for
dealing with them. Think back in your
life, I’m sure that you’ve overcome some major difficulties and that’s just it,
you overcame them and no amount of worrying probably made one bit of difference
to the outcome.
6. They ask the right questions
They
ask empowering, enabling questions rather than disempowering weak ones. They ask questions like, “How can I use this”
“What do I need to do to resolve this” “How can I ensure this doesn’t happen
again” “What do I need to learn from this”.
I’ve spoken at length in other posts about the importance of asking the
right questions click here for more information.
7. They know how to manage their
negative emotions
Non
worriers know that if a negative emotion surfaces, it means that there’s
something that needs to be dealt with and dealt with quickly. They rarely let negative emotions settle and
overpower them. They know how to manage
their emotions, think clearly and get out of any negativity as quickly as possible
by asking the right questions and taking positive action.
Are you a
worrier, or know someone who is?
Life does not have to be like that; you can take control of your
emotions and lead a much healthier and happier life. For more information contact me at info@whatnextconsultancy.co.uk
for a free no obligation chat about how I can help.
Stop
worrying and start living now!
Jo
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