I went to a seminar a couple of
weeks ago in London with two world renowned Success Coaches, Michael Neil (you’ve
heard me talk about him before) and Dr Robert Holden (he comes highly recommended
by Oprah Winfrey ... and she doesn’t recommend just anyone!).
I’ll discuss more about what they
both talked about in other posts, but for this one I wanted to talk about a
theme that ran through both of their individual pieces as well as their joint
section – that’s the idea of living outside in or inside out.
Outside In
The person who lives outside in
lets everything around them affect them, usually negatively. A bit like the Victim of the Victim/Owner I’ve
mentioned in another post, they feel that everything is done to them and their
lives are as a result of outside influences that they have no control over. It doesn’t occur to them that they have
options on how they view outside circumstances and how think and react to them.
Therefore, they lurch from one
disaster to another without realising that they have an option to change
things, make things more positive and have a happier, healthier life.
Inside Out
The person who lives Inside Out
is in control of their life. Yes
bad/negative things still happen to them, but they view them in a different
way. They know that they can control
their thoughts (and therefore their emotions) about what’s happening and
because they can control their thoughts and emotions, they are better able to
deal with difficult situations. They
think more clearly and are therefore more resourceful. They aren’t acting like a Victim ... they Own
their lives.
So, how do you transition from an
Outside In to Inside Out life? Firstly, you
have to come to terms with the idea that you always have a choice about how you
think about a situation. You’ve probably
heard/witnessed lots of things around perception eg two people can witness the
same car accident, but both recall the event totally differently – they both
have different perceptions of what
happened. You may be talking to your
friend about a mutual acquaintance, but both have completely different views on
that person – that’s because of the way you think about them and the way you’ve
interpreted how they think about you.
We all have the ability to choose
our thoughts. We can choose to see
something in a negative way or we can choose to see something in a positive
way. Inside out is choosing to see
things positively. Those who live Inside
Out are happier, in control, more resourceful and enjoy life more.
How would you describe your
life? Are you living Outside In or
Inside Out?
Have a wonderful weekend.
Jo