Have you
labelled yourself as a procrastinator?
Do you put things off that you know you should be doing? Do you find it
extremely hard to start something? Do
you find yourself doing anything (I call it ‘cleaning out your kitchen
cupboards’) rather than doing the thing that you think you should be doing? Well you’re not alone. Pretty much everyone I meet does some or all
of the things above, plus more.
I’ve been
studying this with some of my clients and friends and find that when I question
them about the things they are telling themselves and the reasons why they
don’t do what they think they should be doing, I find that actually you can’t
just put it down to one issue ie ‘procrastination’ it’s usually one of 5 things
that we put under the heading of procrastination:
1. Inertia
2. Learned helplessness
3. Resistance
4. Forcing the flow
5. Chasing the wrong goal
So let’s
look at each of those 5 things.
1. Inertia
What
do I mean by Inertia? Well you can’t
move. You remain the same. You just can’t seem to get started. The ‘thing’ you want to do seems too big or
too hard or you don’t know where to start ... so you don’t!
The
key to combating inertia is to start.
Start anywhere, even if it’s one tiny thing that moves you in the right
direction. Just do one small thing that
moves you forward. For example, if you
want to start to exercise, just walk around the block. If you want to start saving, just start with saving
£5. Starting small will get you ‘in
motion’ and by the law of motion, motion creates more motion and you’ll find
that you don’t stop there. You’ll get
carried along and the more you do to take you towards your goal, the more you’ll
want to do.
The
other way to do it is to start BIG! Go
all out. If you want to pay your debts
off, push yourself and pay more than you intended to. If you want to start to exercise, sign
yourself up for a 5K with some friends (you’re less likely to back out
then!).
If
you’re worried that once you start then you won’t be able to stop and it will use
up more of your time than you want it to, set yourself 15 minute time blocks in
which to do it. 15 minutes is nothing in
a 24 hour day and you’d be amazed how focussed you can be if you’ve set
yourself a short time scale. You can also get an awful lot done in a concentrated 15 minutes. Commit to the time box and not to the result,
if you do that, the results are sure to follow.
2. Learned Helplessness
When
you find enough reasons to do something, nothing will stop you. Tony Robins (world renowned self help guru)
says, ‘If you can find enough reasons to do something, you can get yourself to
do anything’.
Here
are some quick tips to help you overcome learned helplessness:
a. Write down as many reasons (no
matter how big or small) as you can for doing the thing you want to do. Do this with someone else if that helps. Just make sure you do it.
b. Make plans regarding how you would
go about achieving it (see my posts on goal setting to help you with this)
c. Gather evidence that will help
support your goal. That might means
statistics, research who has done what you’ve done before, what help is out
there for you etc
3. Resistance
Michael
Neill (another self help guru) sums up resistance nicely:
You
are almost never resisting performing a task;
Rather
you are resisting being ‘forced’ to perform the task.
In his book ‘You Can Have What you Want’ he gives an
example of not making sales calls and he says that he can either beat
himself up for being a horrible person or ‘sneak up’ on his resistance using
time management techniques or just give up!
But he says what if he’s resisting making the calls because he just
doesn’t want to be told what to do ... even if it’s him that’s doing the
telling.
So what’s the solution? Stop giving yourself such a hard time. When we’re pushed, we push back. Trust that you know what’s best for you (most
of us don’t trust that we know that) and just do the thing because you want to,
not because you or anyone else is forcing you to!
Tomorrow,
I’ll give you the last two reasons why we aren’t doing what we think we should
be doing. Until then, have a wonderful
day.
Jo
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